But that's not the point in this post. Actually I'm trying to wrap my mind around the change in society where people will have children together, but won't get married. My boyfriend has told me countless times about how he'd like to have children with me one day, but the talk about actually getting married has been a very mute conversation, one that hardly ever comes up except during times of intense evaluation of the relationship. I don't understand this, mostly because I would think the hardest commitment to make would be to stay with someone FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. I believe that kids encumbers a part of that commitment, not being a separate part. Now, committing to your kids is different, but you don't tell your kids, hey, I'm going to have you now, so be ready to be born and be a part of my life! Kids don't have that choice.
All I know when it comes to having baby daddies....I'll never have THIS reaction:
I'm so mean...not really.
I keep thinking about relationships, and when it comes down to it, I don't feel 100% about marriage. And that should be normal. I have too many unknowns or fuzzy areas with this guy that only time can clear up for me. It just takes time to get to know someone and to make sure you know what you're getting yourself into. Which is why I get so completely confused as to why people want to "have each other's babies" but not get married. I don't understand why people want to be parents, but not husbands and wives. When did a negative connotation come with marriage?
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